Saturday, February 25, 2012

Struggling with infertility?


For those of you who know me, you know how I've struggled in the past with infertility and it's effect on me. It isn't easy, but lately the Lord has really been trying to get my attention with a chapter in Psalms that I am almost convinced was written from the writer to a woman struggling with this very issue. I had a pastor tell me one time, "Jennifer, there are plenty of promises in the word of God that you can claim and you need to quote them back to the Lord and tell Him what His word says!" This pastor was not implying that God forgot His word or His promises, but that it would be an act of faith on MY part, telling Him I believe His word and that He will keep His promises...
Well, one of those promises that I stubbornly (I will explain in a moment why I used the word 'stubbornly') clung to was found in Psalm 127:3 ~ Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is His reward. We all know that scripture, right? In prayer, I would cling to that verse, my Bible open in front on me, and I would point to it, Look Lord, here is the verse! This is what Your word says! And much to my surprise, He would tell me, Look at the first two verses! So, I did.
"Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it..." NOW HOLD ON!!!! I went on the defense! I thought to myself, That's why I don't have anymore children! God doesn't want me to have any!  You talk about hurting! I started to get mad and I would NOT read that verse anymore and kept right on clinging to verse 3, stubbornly, I might add...
But FINALLY, God got through to me! That was NOT what verse 1 meant! He caused me to remember how he brought my husband into my life when I thought I was NEVER going to get married and He has put our home together and thus started building our home! He told me, I am the One who's building your home! Not you, or your husband or anyone else! I am the master builder and Me alone! You can't even get to verse 3 because you are stuck at verse 2
Verse 2? It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, and eat the bread of sorrows, for so He giveth His beloved sleep.
God was dealing with me... I wasn't trusting Him.. I was worrying, fretting, sorrowful (believe me, the word 'sorrowful' isn't even strong enough) and it has been a hindrance to me! God was telling me that because of my lack of trust in Him, I was hindering what He wants to do in OUR lives and that HE is the builder, not me! It isn't up to me, it isn't about me, and I needed to let go and let Him do the building! He said, I am the builder, and you need to trust that I will build it right, and you need to quit worrying and when you do that, verse 3 will come!
Then verses 4 and 5 will happen!
As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man, so are children of the youth!
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate!
Verse 1 - Master Builder who is worthy of our trust
Verse 2 - If you are trusting Him like you should, you will rest in Him
Verse 3 - He brings His promise to pass
Verse 4 - The future of our children
Verse 5 - The happiness of the home!
In essence, if God has promised, He WILL keep His promises! But we must do our part, so He can do His! He lays out the plans, tells us what we should do, and He will do the rest! So you know what? I don't worry anymore! If God can make a woman, who is now the mother of three children (at least, she may have more by now), have children AFTER having a complete hysterectomy, then God can move for those who struggle with infertility! But we must rest in His promises and BELIEVE HIM!!!! Hasn't He promised? Has He ever failed to KEEP His promises? No...
Trust Him!! He is the Master Builder and He knows how to build!!!! 

2 comments:

  1. I too have struggled with fertility, but I was healed and now have 3 kids all 2 yrs apart. I'll be praying for you because I know exactly how you are feeling.

    Amy Parker

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  2. Arrgh! I'm trying my best to post here........

    Hi, Jennifer! Just found your blog. I so understand about infertility. I longed for a child for about 3 yrs when God healed me. Now I have 3 kids, ages 2,4,and 6. Be careful how you pray is all I'm saying. Ha! Seriously though, I understand how you feel and will earnestly be praying for you!

    Amy Parker

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